Although divorce is common, it does not discount the fact that it is still ultimately one of the most difficult decisions a person will make in their life. You may be wondering whether it is the right thing to do. A marriage is a mutual agreement based on promises you made to each other. If your spouse is not fulfilling those promises, you can consider that a breach of contract. It might be time to end the contract. These are situations where a divorce might be your best option.
You have grounds for divorce
In Rhode Island, you can file for a divorce on the grounds of irreconcilable difference. It is not necessary to establish fault. However, you may want to consider the reason behind your propensity for divorce. There might be a possibility that your spouse does have a fault. If your spouse is guilty of any of the additional grounds for divorce, you should not have to tolerate these causes, including:
- Domestic violence and any form of extreme cruelty
- Verbal or emotional abuse
- Infidelity or betrayal
- Your spouse has a substance abuse problem and refuses to acknowledge it or seek treatment
There is a reason the law explicitly outlines these causes for a divorce. A spouse should not have to endure maltreatment.
Your spouse is financially abusive
Financial abuse is more likely when one spouse is the primary wage earner. They use finances and other economic means to control you by intentionally withholding resources from you. Divorce can be expensive, but with the proper legal counsel, your spouse may shoulder your expenses. You may even recover spousal maintenance for the interim period and rehabilitative alimony after finalizing the divorce settlement agreement.
Lack of effort, intimacy and affection
A marriage works when both spouses collaborate. It takes time and effort, but also intimacy. If your spouse has stopped trying to fulfill your needs and exercises a certain degree of indifference toward you, there is no point in staying together. You will only grow resentful of each other.
You are only thinking about the children
You stay married because you want to be with your children, not your spouse. When a child grows up in a hateful and hostile environment, it can significantly impact their psyche.
If there are no improvements in your marriage despite your efforts, the marriage may take its toll on you. A divorce can be the beginning of a better life. You do not need to suffer any longer.