As summer approaches, co-parents face unique challenges and opportunities when it comes to planning. Thankfully, preparing effectively for the summer months can ease transitions, reduce conflicts and help to better ensure that both parents and children enjoy their time to the fullest.
It’s nearly May. Therefore, if you and your ex co-parent and you haven’t started having discussions about vacation plans, camps and other activities, the time to do so is now. This will allow you both to coordinate your schedules and avoid last-minute conflicts. Consider using a shared digital calendar to track your time with the children, important dates and events for the sake of transparency and clearly defined expectations.
Scheduling
Summer often offers a more relaxed pace and spontaneous opportunities. While maintaining a structured schedule is important, flexibility can go a long way in facilitating a smooth co-parenting arrangement. Be willing (when possible and appropriate) to swap days or adjust times to accommodate special events like family reunions, weddings or once-in-a-lifetime outings. This flexibility can enhance children’s summer experiences and promote goodwill between you and your ex.
With that said, it’s important to discuss each parent’s expectations and responsibilities for the summer more broadly, including who will handle enrollments in camps, purchase supplies and manage transportation. Without a relatively “set” agenda, it’s going to be hard to set reasonable expectations for everyone, and to plan accordingly. Tools like co-parenting apps can streamline communication and keep everyone informed.
Budgeting
The costs of summer activities can add up quickly. Discuss and agree upon budgets for activities, travel and other expenses, as financial challenges are likely to inspire conflict otherwise. Consider setting up a joint account for child-related expenses or decide how each parent will contribute. This financial clarity can help to prevent disputes and better ensure that children’s needs and wants are met without financial strain.
Planning for summertime isn’t always a straightforward process. But, by digging in now, you’ll better ensure that you set a solid foundation for the season well in advance.